Cats: Why so timid? give a hand?
I feel I need some advice really on what I can do to support my two cats that are overly timid around me and my partner. The story begins – we purchased them from 12 weeks of age when they were both little kittens. From the day the enter our house they hid up and really didn’t come out till 3 days after. I was told by many ethnic group that this is OK it will change as they get older; ably this is not the case. The male cat is a little more loving and doesn’t intellect being stroked but the female, when going to touch her she moves away up to that time I can stroke her or kind of looks as if I am going to hurt her –
The male cat have been castrated and is not so boisterous but does chase her around and they do fight
I have just this minute taken on another kitten who is 4 months old – he is soo different, loves being stroked, sits on my lap, literally approaching a baby!
Can anyone please give me any advice on what I can do to trade name them not so timid? We bought them from a cat breeder who bred them outside; I can help but think they enjoy been mistreated at a young age!
Any advice would be much appreciated
Many gratefulness
Im going though the exact same problem as you.
& My cat was born in a hold and wasn't allowed out. neither were her siblings or parents.
she doesn't like me picking her up or she moans terribly and trys to lash out. i bort a puppy 7 months ago and she doesn't close to her at all.
but recently i started just sitting within a room with my cat and looking in her eyes for no reason and afterwards she came an sat like on my knees. when she first came i thought she was gonna claw me because usually when you look within an animals eyes they get angry. and also reward her, like say well brought-up girl and stuff when she does let you stroke her, and cook a piece off chicken for her once a week. they love that and then she will be capable of trust you with loads more stuff.
good luck hope all go well.
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was your womanly cat ill treated before you got her cats love human being pampered just give her tip bits she will soon come round
Yes I too think these kittens were unsuccessfully treated before you got them and hadn't been around society much, apart from rough ones.Your new kitten obviously had a much better start contained by life. You need lots of time and patience beside these 2 poor little souls, don't try to touch them at all, both of you talk quietly to them so that they carry to know the voices they can trust. Tempt them to play by dragging bits of string along, or throwing screwed up bits of paper, if you own no toys. Seeing as the male one has begun to trust you, his sister will probably follow, also seeing the different kitten trusting you will be good for them. They may never be lap cats and may always be a bit suspicious but I do think with more time and lots of love you'll eventually be rewarded with love support from them as you sound a very caring soul.
You didnt say how old they are presently?
You'll need alot of patience, it sounds as though they didnt have much human contact, and probably copied their parents lifestyle.
My own cat, it took 7 months to be able to touch her- she was feral. And she still doesnt let my partner pick her up.
I deeply bribed her with food- rewarded her for coming near me with a treat.
But next some cats just dont like being handle. my mums cat, (i grew up with it) shes so indepedant, and will only let you stroke her on her terms/doesnt permit you pick her up- and we did nothing to cause it.
It'll take time, and hopefully whether she watches you with your new kitten, she might understand slowly, that nought bad happens when you stroke it.
Keep trying
Answers: I work in the pet department of a large retail store, and I'm a cat owner. Cats can be timide, and it depends on the personality and their environment. it also depends on howe they are trained and raised.
I think you should mention this to a vet. or speak to an animal trainer. see what they say. Usually it take time for cats to adapt to a new event.
the first mistake be buying these kittens from a cat breeder...
they were probably born and left alone until it was time to seperate them from their mother so causing them to b feral..
taming them down will b time consuming if not impossible to totally tame them...
you stipulation to get them in one room so they dont have a hulking area in which to hide, after get down to their level (sit on the floor) with treats, toys or their favorite food...address to them while youre interacting with them so they can learn to trust you..dont make any sudden moves towards them..tolerate them come to you...
good luck
yes it sounds similar to the poor fellas had a tough 12 weeks before you got them, that's not usual for kittens. sure they will hide for a while when you first bring them home but sounds close to you have had them for a while now?
i rescued a cat & i know his first owner & he never patted or handled the cat. now ive have him 2years and he still wont let me touch him. i feed him & thats it. so i think whoever bread these kittys be either mean to them or just didnt button them at all.
Poor little things.They have had a rough start.self born outside usually means not much interaction.and household sounds.its adjectives been very stressful for them both.to suddenly loose mum and find themselves in amongst some tremendously strange noises and things,to be outside then surrounded by .traumatic as well.why did you feel the need to shift and get another one,instead of spending time socialising the two you have,.Im not a great believer of lining breeders pockets ,of late to get something that'sgot a pedigree.I really feel for those Kits that are not socialised you are really going to have to provide them so much time and love.maybe they will allways be timid.not all cats are outgoing.you will have to adopt them for what they are,or for what the horrid breeder has made them. only time and patience will describe. I do hope they adjust .it cant be much fun for them poor things, I feel sorry for all the other kits that your breeder have sold on in this condition.
Your kittens should of been put into a bedroom when you 1st got them and introduced to the house after roughly 5/6 days.its all to much for them,
One of my cats thinks she's a dog, LOVES attention, comes running when you come surrounded by the door, always wants to play, be petted, sleep on your lap etc. If the TV is on she starts whining whether you are not holding her while you are watching it.
The other one prefers to hide in closets, under the bed, and sleep on heat vents. She doesn't mind being held when its HER belief, but otherwise..leave kitty alone.
So its probably 1 part personality and 1 subdivision socialization. My two are sisters, and while they were both socialized together, there are marked differences between them.
