Just ticked rotten give or take a few horses ?
i have a horse that I ride , I ride english and the horse and I are very bonded ( extremly bonded that she is nasty to everyone else).
I own taken dressage , and polo my dressage coach is a 2004 oylimic rider . Plus I study parelli.
well my husband the novice rider wants to buy me a horse since the horse I enjoy is one that I am training for others . But he thinks his words ( that I act better then anyone else because I prefer the stricker displines of riding) and the barn I am at is adjectives western bakyard type horses .
He thinks he should just be able to hop on yank the reins left right and kick to go and verbs hard to stop .
Because of his lack of knowledge he think how horses should always work that simple. He wants to buy one but I am so ticked off beause after adjectives my hard work he cuts me down. ( by saying english riding is stupid , and pointless and it take to much work to understand and he shouldn't have to work that hard.
I would love to own a perment horse but not whether it means hearing his mouth about how silly he thinks my riding style is.
Don't give up on riding (or your hubby)! It sounds to me like you truly love your husband AND the horses! Maybe try showing him some western training books by reputable horseman that include leg ques as well as reign cues to communicate beside the western disciplined horse? Something that includes not only riding but all around horsemanship? Maybe something by western horseman (these are books published by the mag of the same name), Pat Parelli, or John or Josh Lyons? I own ridden on and off, and researced horses most of my life and I have found that I prefer a more traditional approach to horses, such as dressage or other 'english' styles, but enjoy always been interested in the western side of horsemanship too. My biggest issue beside western riding has always been the obnoxious bits that seem to be so popular in that culture. Even if a soul wanted to ride in a nice, soft snaffle in a western show they are merely allowed to do so untill the horse is a certain age or the rider reaches a certain stratum of competition. Some disciplines (like barrel racing) outlaw snaffles all togather because they don't give satisfactory 'whoa'. So, I am at a loss when I hear of people who don't understand that the bit and reins are there to lend a hand you communicate with the animal, they are not a 'stearing wheel', and that there are so many other cues that folks hold never even HEARD of, never mind trying (seat, legs, weight shifting, turning your body/head, etc).
Well, good luck and hold on to pursuing your passion! I just got the green pale from MY husband to pursue my dreams and go back to school to work near horses. I am stoked. I hope I was able to help.
Okay, clearly you need to sort your marriage problems out with a councilor or something.and possibly keep your husband away from your barn and the horse your training...I know it can be fustrating, my mom thinks she know everything too (she only rides once a month on average and she constantly tells me what to do on my 3 yr old...) and its a cramp but you just have to ignore and not permit it get to you...
Good Luck!
BB
Buy your husband a motorcycle - he doesn't have the proper mentality to be riding horses - I would feel sorry for any horse he get on. And wouldn't let him near my horse!
Also, if my husband ever said my riding style be "stupid", I would seriously consider why I would be married to someone with so little respect for me. Then look in the mirror and ask myself why I would allow myself to be treated that way. It take two - one to be the abuser and one to allow herself to be abused.
Maybe he's human being a manly man and isn't really dealing with the thought that you can do something much better than he can and it make him feel inferior and useless or merely plain stupid.
Just a thought.
It doesn't sound like you own marriage problems or need to get a divorce. Don't listen to these other ppl vote you should throw in the towel just because you both don't agree on something. It sounds like you want to just communicate better. Speak up! Let him know how you really feel, you need to sit down and transmit him that you're very serious about this and that english riding is was more complicated than he think. (actually any form of riding is complicated) it sounds like he doesn't know how complicated exactly. Has he ever been to one of your module? Maybe you should talk to him about taking a few lessons, so he'll know how difficult riding can be. And i'd vote if he doesn't like it, he can get his own horse.
but merely try to tell him that this is something important to YOU! and that even if it looks simple to him, thats merely because you make it look that way. If he doesn't want to try to understand your riding style, at smallest talk to him about your opinions almost riding and horses. I can see how he is being annoying, and that annoyes me too, when someone says something looks simple, but they have no actual experience or experience.
I wish you luck!
edit- well if he's too hard-headed to even win a lesson from you, maybe just ask him to back rotten a little. Somehow just agree to disagree. I don't think you'll know how to change his mind on something he's so set on. It sounds like he a moment ago thinks he's right, so maybe just don't gain him involved in the horse part of your life extraordinarily often. Sometimes its tough to convince non-horse people that your serious about horses and riding.
I'm going to college soon to study to be a farrier and to study equine squeeze therapy and my mother won't speak to me because she thinks horses are dumb animals and that i should be working some boring desk job. But you know what? i'm ignore her because this is what i want, this is what i think will be the best possible career choice for me. I'm just dictum this because my mom may never understand how smart and wonderful horses are, she may never get why i want to work with them for the rest of my existence, but i could care less b/c its my life and its what i want, you know?
If your husband won't try to recognize, then don't force him to. Don't let him cut you down though. If you want a new horse, be in motion look for one that will work for you, and then tell your husband that this is the horse your getting and it will be only yours!
i hope everything works out! =]
well you aren't very nice about western horses...this statement right here make his side easier to believe when you put it this way...your own words:
"well my husband the novice rider requests to buy me a horse since the horse I have is one that I am training for others . But he thinks his words ( that I act better afterwards anyone else because I prefer the stricker displines of riding) and the barn I am at is all western bakyard type horses"
western riding takes just as much disipline...perhaps you don't understand it because maybe you've never competed in any western disiplines...but thieve it from a person who rides both western and english...both are equally strict, competition wise...so maybe you do inevitability to come down off your high horse a bit...and maybe stir up him to get some lessons instead of complaining on how much he doesn't know.
Edit...lol..I don't know about you, but I couldn't train my hubby anything...it's too easy for me to growl at him...lol. Why don't you get him some lessons from someone else for a offering? Maybe he'll see then that horses aren't like the Walmart quarter ride horse...lol. Just a thought though =)
Answers: You gave the wrong title to this question - you're not ticked sour about horses at all, you're ticked off at your husband!
It sounds similar to he's being a jerk and maybe horses isn't a hobby for you to share. If you get your own horse, could you board it somewhere else? Let him continue riding at the current place, and you can do your own thing outside of his scene and criticism somewhere else.
Don't listen to those who say its time to get a divorce.. If they solved every one of their little marital problems like that, they'll have been re-married and divored 100X up to that time they die..
Speak up to your husband! let him know that what he's saying is bothering you. Clearly your ot going to be able to show him that, as he does seem to be to be a tad hard headed, so maybe you'll never agree on this, however, you can be (he can be) more sympathetic (I guess you could say- looking for the word that ability you take care as to what you say towards someone else). As someone else mentioned, its your communication that requests work.
Eventually (hopefully) he will be enlightened and see that there is much more to horses then pulling them around a tight corner- he wouldn't be saying that whether he were in a jump bad at spruce meadows and needed a tight corner to an oxer, and he wouldn't be saying that if he be barrel racing (never tried, but im assuming theres much more to it then "pulling" the horse around the barrels next to just the reins).
Don't give up; ignore what he say at the least.. you know as well as any other english rider that it takes MUCH more next a bit in the horses mouth and sitting for the ride. Don't give up on horses and keep riding, sounds close to your doing great!
Sounds like it's time for a divorce.
Either that or a serious sesh with a wedding ceremony counselor that can do an overhaul on your dumb husband.
The horses are nicer. Stick with english. If you like it it ain't nobody else's business.
Look, I practice both disciplines, English more habitually. One IS NOT better than the other, but each has its uses. It sounds like he is simply being an idiot and giving you a hard time. Next time he brings it up say this:
"I love you and adjectives, but your an egotistical jerk who doesn't understand that I enjoy this. So whether your going to talk about riding, at least be nice roughly it."
Or something along those lines. Make him guilty about cutting you down, or challenge him to a get off!! HAHA
Good Luck!
-Nov
Ha! Your boy needs a hobby that HE is angelic at. You are obviously far better with horses than he is - he is jealous.
Western riding - that would be PROPER western riding where on earth ONE hand is used to neck rein - is achieved through LEG AIDS during the training phase.
Two hand + a western saddle + bouncing = an untrained backyard rider. He wouldn't be allowed to ride my horses either.
He is a yahoo wannabe cowboy - you are an equestrien with the ability and desire to train - not break a horse.
His agency - force and manhandle and the belief that he knows it all is not UNcommon.
Only a moron refuses to memorize another way...or someone that simply knows YOU are better than them but will not admit it to you. Some family cannot accept that.
Then there is the option that he really think "pretty" and calm riding is stupid. Horses are to be "used" and "Look honey it IS that easy!" He is not alone.
Not a karma in Hades I would share a horse with him. Buy your own and let him do duplicate and both of you leave the other one alone.
Good Luck!!
